Hey Spenny, I've sent a suggestive photo or two (well... more like dozens) to my partner. This is something I've always done with boyfriends in the past and so far, it hasn't bit me in the ass. I just find it sexy knowing that they're able to look at them whenever they please. But... should I be more concerned about doing this? We're in a serious relationship, but you never know what could happen.
Technology, like everything, is both good and bad.
The obvious good is one’s ability to instantly produce, send, and store pictures of one’s genitals using various portable devices. When you really think about it, it’s much cooler than the invention of the wheel.
Not to date myself, but when I was a wee lad, people had to take naughty pictures with something called a film camera (Google it), then take the actual film to a lab for developing, wait for an entire hour, sometimes two, then have to go pick up, and PAY, for prints and the original negative. In retrospect, it was a living Hell. And, on top of all that, the putz working in at the lab might see the dirty photos you took of you, or your lover, who probably, at the time, had pubic hair. Yikes!
But, these days, being a photographically bad girl (or boy) couldn’t be easier., or more convenient. No more middle-man, except possibly the Government. Yikes, again. Go Apple!!!
The fundamental upside of technology bolls down to getting porn for free, and luxury of taking and sending filthy pics of ourselves. Thank you, Al Gore! I agree it’s sexy knowing that at any given moment your horny lover can whack off to your nude, or partially nude (my preference) pictures while you’re apart. Again, thanks Al. You certainly can’t do that with a wheel.
But with every upside, comes a sobering downside. The truth is, if you send pics of yourself in your birthday suit, it could feasibly come back to haunt us…I, mean you. All it takes is one misstep with a jilted lover, who has access to the pictures, and it’s possible that he, or she, could use them against you. Anthony Weiner’s wiener comes to mind.
Don’t panic. Chances are it won’t happen, but never underestimate the petty jealousy and meanness of your fellow humans. If you want proof, just watch the GOP nomination process in the current U.S election cycle? Just be careful out there.
I wouldn’t lose sleep over this. Your dirty pictures are one of trillions floating around the online universe. Unless you have a major abnormality like a clitoris the size Cleveland, I don’t think anyone will give a crap.
However, if you want to be a politician, a teacher, or a cop, it could be problematic. If you want to be almost anything else, it might actually help. Think Pam Anderson and Kim Kardashian. Turned out to be good career moves. In other words, make sure the pics are super hot.
My unselfish, solicited advice is to send all questionable pictures directly to me. I’ll let you know if they cross the line. Hey, it’s what I do, and you’re welcome.
On the third date with a woman, I found out that she has a kid from previous relationship. I'm young and haven't had any plans of introducing kids into my life, so I'm a bit weirded out. I still want to see where it can go with her, but I'm worrying more about leading her on that this point. Do I just see where it goes or should I be upfront with her?
It took her to the third date to tell you, huh? Hmmm. Not cool. Did she give you amazing sex in an attempt to lull you into a libido-driven stupor before she dropped the progeny bomb? I hope so for you…at least for the short term anyway.
Unfortunately, some women feel they’re at a disadvantage if they have kids from a previous relationship. It’s sad, but makes sense given the self-centredness and chronic immaturity of our culture.
I don’t want to sound holier than I am, which is pretty effin’ holy, but isn’t it possible that the complication of a child that isn’t yours could make the relationship/love experience that much deeper and worthwhile? Let’s put the stretched vagina, peeing while coughing, poopy diapers, hormonal insanity, lack of sleep and the “you’re not my Daddy” tantrums aside for the moment.
Giving guidance, love and support to the child of a single mom is a wonderful opportunity to be the best person you can be. Sorry to break the responsibility sucks bubble.
Kids, and the responsibilities therein, are what Hunter S. Thompson called (referring to politics, I think) as “meat hook realities” of existence, and if you absorb one thing from my sage wisdom, it’s that the aspects of life that are the most difficult and challenging, are, in the final analysis, the only ones that actually matter.
That said, don’t lead her on if you’re not willing to man-up. Certainly don’t do it to get sex…as tempting as that might be. When you say you “want to see where it goes” I’m hoping that the answer is deeper than third base.
I've always wanted to go at it in a movie theatre. Is it worth giving this a try, or should I find somewhere else that's maybe a bit less risky, but still has the thrill factor? It doesn't have to be packed or anything... even if we were the only one's there. If I shouldn't, are there any other risky places you'd suggest?
You’re asking me if it‘s worth giving sex in a movie theatre a try? As long as you’re not sitting near me, knock yourself out. By the way, for the price of movies these days, the theatre should supply your partner. And don’t get me going about the vat of M&M’s I’m forced to buy at the concession stand. Grrrr.
Personally, I don’t get the sex-in-public thing. I’d be worried about popcorn getting up her hoo-ha, although I admit the hot butter might have some practical applications. I’d also be worried about getting caught, which I get is part of the adrenaline rush, but having a minimum-waged, zitty usher catch me, then 86 me in front of a theatre full of stunned/laughing people is not something that puts me in a sexy mood. But, that’s me. No judging, I swear.
However, you did confuse me when you suggested that you’d “try it even if you’re the only one’s there.” Really? An empty movie theatre? Are going to see “Mortdecai" with Johnny Depp? Isn’t an empty theatre missing the danger part? Or, are uncomfortable dirty, gum-stuck theatre seats a turn on?
BTW, if it’s risk you’re looking for, I suggest boning under the dinner table at your family’s Thanksgiving feast, or in front of the information desk at your local mall on Boxing Day. My view, go big, or stay home. (FYI, I plan on seeing the 7:30 showing of “The Big Short” next Wednesday in Toronto. Please don’t come/cum to that screening. Thanking you in advance.)
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